Is Feminism Really for the Black Woman?

So this topic just keeps appearing in front of me. As a pro black woman most people think that it isn't appropriate for me to be a feminist also. This pisses me the fuk off because if I can remember correctly black women have been at the bottom of the totem pole for a long time as far back as slavery so why wouldn't a black woman be a feminist or a woman that is pro black. Since slavery a black woman has had to fight her way to being respected as a woman and just as a human being. Black woman were raped by white and black men. Not to mention when women were allowed to enter the work force black women were doing the same jobs as white women but getting paid less and black women have been receiving a negative back lash about their sexuality and reproductive choices for years. Black women continue to receive disrespect from white society and her black counter parts on a daily basis publicly, without shame, so why is it inappropriate for me to be pro black and a feminist? Imma need you people who think this to get your lifeeee! I do realize that the original feminist movement was not the black woman's movement but perhaps that has been a part of the problem all along. People need to realize being a feminist is not about hating men or saying that the woman race is better than the male but about having equality and control over your choices and your life!#Blackfeminist#PissedtheFukOff

Why the hell can't I afford this ish

I know theirs somebody out here who can relate to working a job where you can't afford ish in there even with a discount. This pisses me the fuk off. I feel it is a travesty to have to work somewhere and they don't even pay you enough to be able to afford their product and then have the nerve to wonder why people be stealing they ish. By all means this is not an excuse for stealing, but its very tempting to be surrounded by things you want and know you can't afford them and then you have an arse for a boss that reminds you everyday how you don't want to be at the dam job and expects you to break your back for the pennies they are paying you. What made me really think about this is I was in the airport and wanted something to eat and the only place to grab something quick was this burger joint, but the prices were ridiculous.I mean ten dollars for a burger pleaseee get your life! So I asked the person waiting on me did they eat the food and they told me no because they couldn't afford a ten dollar burger and they felt the price was ridiculous. No matter where ever people work they should be able to afford the product they are servicing to others whether its food, clothing, shoes, or anything else. Again this all has to do with the cost of living though. Ish is just priced too high and is mainly based on people making a profit and not what people can actually afford. I know as a provider people want to make money off their products and they should but when will people just stop being plain old greedy. It really bothers me to know people have to scrape together funds to afford ish at the store they work at. # PissedtheFukOff

WTF Zimmerman Verdict Not Guilty

My heart is so heavy for Trayvons family and every other black male like Trayvon Martin.#pissedthefukoff extremely I am with the U.S justice systems. This clearly should have been an open and shut case and the verdict should have been definitely guilty. Zimmerman clearly had no reason to fear Trayvon and he clearly could have chosen a better resolution than killing a young boy walking home from the store. The worst part of this scenario is there was only one persons story to go off of. Obviously Zimmerman wanted it that way or else he would have not killed an unarmed adolescent. This case just proves no matter how much people want to believe black people are in a good place because we have a black president that this is not the reality. Also besides the issue of race here there is also the issue of class. Trayvons family could not afford better representation than the appointed prosecutors. Clearly the prosecutors did not do their best given the circumstances. Times like this makes me ask where the fuk are our black leaders. Where the hell are the Johnny Cochran s of our time , where are the Martin Kings and where the hell is Jesse Jackson's arse. He should have made his presence felt at the trial even if they had to stand outside the court house. I just felt it was more that could have been being done during this trial. People especially should have protested the jury six women and only 2 of color gtfoh if that was not a recipe for this mess then I don't know what to say. I am also very disappointed at Obama telling people to respect the verdict Mr if I had a son he would look like Trayvon#pissedthefukoff When will people start stepping up and being the change and stop fearing losing status or being disliked by the public. I must say though I am proud of all the people stepping up and protesting this verdict. Truth is if we stand together we can make a difference and can't be ignored. Makes me think of my favorite seen from Soul Food. One of the Sunday dinners where Big Mama said hold your hand out and look at your fingers separate they don't do much but if you ball them up together they make a fist that can strike a mighty blow and we as black people need to be that fist#justiceforTrayvon#nojusticenopeace#pissedthefukoff

Somebody Should Have Checked her A** a Long Time Ago

Okay so I have been so busy with school and life and all I hadn't had a chance to address Paula Deen's situation, but now is the time. SO after reading all the news feeds and articles about Paula Deen and her racist comments and actions the biggest thing that pisses me the fuk off is why didn't somebody check her a** a long time ago when she first said the ish. This is a prime example of how the media controls when we are upset and what we are upset about. This issue should have been addressed publicly when it first happened, but there was no light shed on it. Now all of sudden because the network she worked for is not renewing her contract due to " racist incidents" everyone wants to be enraged. I am willing to bet there is more to this story than the media is letting us in on as far as why they are not renewing her contract.If the Food Network was so intolerant of racist remarks and actions why wasn't she let go from her contract when it happened. So I am not going to give The Food Network a pat on the back or hero cape for their late actions. I am also pissed the fuk off with Al Sharptons comments saying "why hold her accountable for something she said 20yrs ago and she made a mistake", especially when he is advocating to banish the N word. Every body is only giving this lady a pass because she cooked some good food what does this say about Black America. I feel that if we want to be treated fully equal we can not give out passes to certain people of certain status when they are making racist statements and having racist actions. We have to be non tolerant because Paula Deen is not really suffering from anything, she has made her money and has lived her life and has not really been held accountable for her actions. This also exemplifies how people do what you allow them to do, the fact that she had a black assistant who didn't mind her actions and didn't check her on them says allot. I don't believe Paula Deen made a mistake because she had more than one slip. It's like I always say ignorance breeds ignorance and if her family were southern slave owners and thought that way then they raised a child that became a woman that thinks that same way and people have been letting her pass with this behavior so why would she change.#PissedtheFukOff

Your A** Did Not Wake Up In A Bugatti

So I have always felt this certain kind of way about the quality of Rap music and how it relates to the people who listen to it. It has been rubbing me the wrong way and pissing me the fuk off!I went to a bar last night and I was just peeping the seen and you know how the DJ plays those certain songs that gets the crowd hype and everybody sings along. I noticed that the two songs that had the crowd the most hype were called Bugatti and All my ni^^as look rich as fuk. Now my issue is I can't relate to these songs and most of the people singing them can't either. Your a** did not wake up in a Bugatti let alone a new one.Half of these people didn't even know what a Bugatti was until this song. If you and your ni**as were rich as fuk you wouldn't be in this club. Why do my people like these songs that are not about them or for them. Oh wait this music is as a matter of fact. This is the kind of music that makes young kids feel like they have to have the most expensive possessions to be respected or on something and it also does the same thing for some adults.This music is meant to control our youth socially. Then that's when the "get it by any means" starts coming into play and we have drug dealers, purse snatchers,and crimes of fraud. Now I'm not blaming the things people do solely on rap lyrics and visibility but it does factor into some peoples actions. When you are young most of the time you don't understand that these artist that are making this music are just putting on a show. All they see is the glitz and glam and wanting to be rich and actually to ride in a Bugatti. It pisses me the fuk off.com that the music I love the most has lost its substance for the most part over time. Now I'm not saying that I don't listen to some of the "ratchet" stuff myself. Get your life! All music doesn't have to be serious but why does most of the music we listen to glorify things that my people don't have , can't afford, and most of us will never see because of the strategic ways to keep us from having them. It's like someone taking ish from you and using your brother or sister to rub the ish in your face!#PissedtheFukOff

Fathers Day Disgust

Okay so I didn't post this yesterday because I wanted to let the Fathers have their day. So of course Fathers day makes me really think about the epidemic of fatherless children in my communities.Notice I used the word epidemic which means a rapid spread or increase in the occurrence of something and that something is fatherless children. It pisses me the fuk off that I even have to deal with issues like this or that it even is an issue at all. My father was not in my life and now I am struggling and saddened by the fact that my daughters father is not in her life. Why is this cycle continuing to happen? I mean I know how it started, which is during slavery, as much as people want to deny it or ignore the facts, slavery had such a tremendous lasting affect on my people.So here is how, during slavery marriage and family was not respected by slave owners for their slaves. They wanted the males to act as studs (a number of horses, usually for racing or hunting, bred or kept by one owner,a male animal, as a bull or ram, kept for breeding.) If he was strong and a good worker they wanted to breed him like a dog or horse and wanted him to impregnate different women in order to breed future strong and good working slaves. Slave owners also disrespected marriage and family by raping women slaves, forcing them to have sex with men other than their husbands and separating their families by selling them off to other slave owners. Now some may say "Well slavery was over a hundred years ago what does this have to do with today?" Its just like what I was explaining to one of my friends a few days ago, it is hard for people to live a way that they are not use to or do things that they are not use to doing or have not been shown to do properly. How can a boy grow to be a good man and father if he doesn't have one around to show him the way? How can a girl choose a good man to be with and father of her future children if she doesn't have any positive examples. Now I'm not saying this is the only factor in this decision, but it is one of the biggest factors I think so. I know their are men and women who defeat these odds and end up not repeating the cycle but the number still doesn't add up to the number of my people that haven't. This pisses me the fuk off, when do we as a people decide that we want better for ourselves and our children and men decide to try being good boyfriends,husbands,brothers, uncles and fathers collectively. This epidemic has got to end.com. Then I was taken a bit back by some of the post on Facebook about Moms not being fathers and they shouldn't get to celebrate Mothers day and Fathers day and people posting things like a woman can't be a father because she is not a man and we don't want to hear from the bitter baby mamas. When will we wake up! People there should not be a such thing as a single mom,baby mama or single dad or baby daddy. There is obviously a reason it takes two people to create another. Credit should be given where it is due. If you are doing a dual job, you should be given that credit. Ejaculating sperm into a woman does not make you a father in any way even the dictionary does not define Father that way, it defines it as a man who exercises paternal care over other persons; paternal protector or provider: to perform the tasks or duties of a male parent;. So if a woman is performing the task of a father; that a man has left her no choice but to, then she deserves credit for that, for taking up her responsibilities and his. I am tired of people trying to undermine the role of a single mom and acting like it is not a hard thing and no big deal. People need to get their life pleaseeeee! I can only think of a few women who have planned to raise a child by their self. People really need to focus on the real issue and that is why aren't we staying together and raising our children together or even just co parenting cooperatively. People want to constantly lay all the blame on a woman when a child comes into play and then want to criticize her if she decides she doesn't want that responsibility and chooses to abort, while men walk away everyday and leave all responsibility on her. This is out of order and further more it is mind bottling to me that statistics show that there were more black families sticking together and fighting to be a family during slavery then it is today. How in the hell were our ancestors risking death and getting their arse whipped to be together and we don't have to deal with any of this and we can't come together and do what needs to be done for our children.#pissedthefukoff By the way Happy Fathers day to the men who actually live up to that role and the women who have to play it! Thank y'all!!

Ish Just Got Real for the Single Mom

So my thoughts are flowing heavy as I write this post. I am pissed the fuk off at the situation of having to be a single mom with a fuked up father(sperm donor)for my child. Now I know lots of people will say you should have kept your legs closed or you knew who you were having a child by but we as people have to stop assuming and criticizing. When I got pregnant at 19 i didn't know much about sex but doing it and really didn't know much about that I was just full of hormones and not full of preventative methods or critical thinking skills it's like they say I was young dumb and full of cum and my bf took advantage of that. My mom told me if I got pregnant in her house she would kick me out and never discussed boys or what to do when I got grown and did decide to have sex to prevent the situation I am in now. That was our sex talk and later on I found out she didn't know how to talk to m e about it because no one talked about it with her and she was so scared of me ending up in a situation like I am now she didn't know what to do but use fear which as you can see only works for so long and most of my peers say they received the same talk from their parents. So while I can't be too mad at my mom for not knowing how to talk to me about sex it still pisses me the fuk off because it probably would have made a big difference if she did, but oh well I guess that's in the past now but back to the issue at hand. So anyone that knows me knows that I love my child to death. I do whatever is in my will and legal to provide for her and keep her happy and all I get from her father is 200 a month in child support, no phone calls for her, no Christmas gifts for her, She is lucky if he calls her on her birthday. Yes I am putting him on blast because I am tired of men and people thinking raising a child is a piece of cake ,especially when you are young and don't have a proper support system. Now I don't talk bad about him to my daughter because she is young, happy and resilient and I'm not going to play villain when she gets older she will see for herself. I say all of this to say ladies and men please examine people really hard before you have children by them and no matter how caught up in lust, love or whatever you may call it realize what can come behind it because people will always tell you what you should do and what they will do but when it comes down to it you can not trust man. Now my Bf was suppose to step up and keep his child for the summer and at last minute he backed out which left me in a situation because I told my babysitter it was her last day and my living situation was changing and so was my work hours. Then his sister stepped in saying she would do it after I cried and complained about how everyone told me to have a baby and not an abortion and said they would help when needed and if they couldn't help then I would just let them have custody of her since that seems to be the only way they will do whats needed for her. So upon this agreement she told me she needed the $200 in child support I get for my child and I told her fine. So remember I said my living situation was changing, well I had to move and I had calculated that into the money I needed to move before we had spoken about her keeping my daughter. I tried to delay moving until I got paid again but I was forced and had to overdraft my account so when the money came the bank took it. So I told her aunt to give me to the next payday and then I would send it next thing I know she is putting my child out telling me I need to come get her if I don't have the money. Now I feel this is ridiculous this is same person that just told me that she was worried about what was best for the child and it wasn't a big deal that she had five kids one more would not hurt. Personally I feel they shouldn't even be asking me for that money because my daughter is seven years old and I can count on one hand the ish they and her father do for her or have done and while I realize it is not his sisters responsibility or his mothers to do for our child I can't help but feel resentment towards them. Well not necessarily his sister but his mother because when I was pregnant she and my bf's father told me not to get an abortion and that they would help with whatever was needed for my daughter. His father gave me this horror story how someone would stick a clamp up my vagina and I could die and at 19 I believed this I had never carried a pregnancy before and like I said I was ill informed. I just feel like when you know your family member is not the best you should stay out of things and not vouch to pick up the slack if your not going to or don't mean it. I feel that her father lives that way and anything our daughter needed for the summer or they felt like she needed for the summer they should have called him. I still have to maintain a place for my daughter when she comes home so was I suppose to end up homeless and give money to them to take my daughter to the zoo and out for luxuries and then when she comes home she doesn't have ish. I don't think so.com People do what they want to do at their convenience is the lesson I have learned and that it's real and trill out here for a single mom, the economy has not gotten back where it needs to be , its becoming harder and harder to finish school and having to schedule your life meaning work and school around another person is not easy. Ish just got realllll....... I am so sad to say in our generation it's Mama Babies and Daddy maybe. #pissedthefukoff