Fathers Day Disgust

Okay so I didn't post this yesterday because I wanted to let the Fathers have their day. So of course Fathers day makes me really think about the epidemic of fatherless children in my communities.Notice I used the word epidemic which means a rapid spread or increase in the occurrence of something and that something is fatherless children. It pisses me the fuk off that I even have to deal with issues like this or that it even is an issue at all. My father was not in my life and now I am struggling and saddened by the fact that my daughters father is not in her life. Why is this cycle continuing to happen? I mean I know how it started, which is during slavery, as much as people want to deny it or ignore the facts, slavery had such a tremendous lasting affect on my people.So here is how, during slavery marriage and family was not respected by slave owners for their slaves. They wanted the males to act as studs (a number of horses, usually for racing or hunting, bred or kept by one owner,a male animal, as a bull or ram, kept for breeding.) If he was strong and a good worker they wanted to breed him like a dog or horse and wanted him to impregnate different women in order to breed future strong and good working slaves. Slave owners also disrespected marriage and family by raping women slaves, forcing them to have sex with men other than their husbands and separating their families by selling them off to other slave owners. Now some may say "Well slavery was over a hundred years ago what does this have to do with today?" Its just like what I was explaining to one of my friends a few days ago, it is hard for people to live a way that they are not use to or do things that they are not use to doing or have not been shown to do properly. How can a boy grow to be a good man and father if he doesn't have one around to show him the way? How can a girl choose a good man to be with and father of her future children if she doesn't have any positive examples. Now I'm not saying this is the only factor in this decision, but it is one of the biggest factors I think so. I know their are men and women who defeat these odds and end up not repeating the cycle but the number still doesn't add up to the number of my people that haven't. This pisses me the fuk off, when do we as a people decide that we want better for ourselves and our children and men decide to try being good boyfriends,husbands,brothers, uncles and fathers collectively. This epidemic has got to end.com. Then I was taken a bit back by some of the post on Facebook about Moms not being fathers and they shouldn't get to celebrate Mothers day and Fathers day and people posting things like a woman can't be a father because she is not a man and we don't want to hear from the bitter baby mamas. When will we wake up! People there should not be a such thing as a single mom,baby mama or single dad or baby daddy. There is obviously a reason it takes two people to create another. Credit should be given where it is due. If you are doing a dual job, you should be given that credit. Ejaculating sperm into a woman does not make you a father in any way even the dictionary does not define Father that way, it defines it as a man who exercises paternal care over other persons; paternal protector or provider: to perform the tasks or duties of a male parent;. So if a woman is performing the task of a father; that a man has left her no choice but to, then she deserves credit for that, for taking up her responsibilities and his. I am tired of people trying to undermine the role of a single mom and acting like it is not a hard thing and no big deal. People need to get their life pleaseeeee! I can only think of a few women who have planned to raise a child by their self. People really need to focus on the real issue and that is why aren't we staying together and raising our children together or even just co parenting cooperatively. People want to constantly lay all the blame on a woman when a child comes into play and then want to criticize her if she decides she doesn't want that responsibility and chooses to abort, while men walk away everyday and leave all responsibility on her. This is out of order and further more it is mind bottling to me that statistics show that there were more black families sticking together and fighting to be a family during slavery then it is today. How in the hell were our ancestors risking death and getting their arse whipped to be together and we don't have to deal with any of this and we can't come together and do what needs to be done for our children.#pissedthefukoff By the way Happy Fathers day to the men who actually live up to that role and the women who have to play it! Thank y'all!!